You–Relationship–Other Person Three-Card Spread
A relationship structure that separates each person’s role from the interaction pattern jointly created between them.
Questions this spread is best for
- Romantic, family, friendship, or work relationships
- Comparing participation without reducing the relationship to one person
- Observing an interaction without claiming to read unexpressed thoughts as fact
Card positions and meanings
Read each card through the role of its fixed position. A card does not mean the same thing in every place in a spread.
- 1
You
Your position, needs, and way of participating in the relationship, including the influence you bring into the interaction.
- 2
Relationship
The interaction pattern, exchange, connection, or tension jointly created by both people, with the relationship observed as a whole in its own right.
- 3
Other Person
The other person’s position, way of participating, or observable tendency within the relationship; this is not a factual judgment about unexpressed inner thoughts.
Sources and version
Source type: Teaching consensus
Greer explicitly lists Person A–Relationship–Person B and describes ways the two person positions can examine what each needs, gives, receives, or presents.
References
- Mary K. Greer, “Three-Card Spreads: The Essentials (and more).”
- Mary K. Greer, The Complete Book of Tarot Reversals, printed pp. 20–21, 215–216, 229–239.
How to use this version
- 1Name the two people and the relationship or interaction you want to examine.
- 2Draw left to right for You, Relationship, and Other Person.
- 3Read each role separately, then compare how both people participate in the connection shown by the center card.
You–Relationship–Other Person Three-Card Spread
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